One of my favorite weekly pastimes is reading from a popular advice column, and through reading the letters of correspondents, I have seen extensively the devastation that occurs from a revelation to a partner that one of them has cheated, whether through a frank conversation or involuntary discovery.
In the wake of cheating, there is an excess of heartbreak, and there are no easy answers for what to do afterward. But if you're in the position of being cheated-upon, try to keep your head on straight. The advice and guidance I am about to provide can assist you in the immediate steps to follow. The long-term reaction is up to you.
Again, don't make any rash maneuvers, as you will be acting out of a place of grief and pain without assessing the possibilities and the consequences. It is usually an instinctive measure to end the relationship, but you should wait to make that decision until you have a clearer head.
Some distance may be in order so that you can achieve that. It's not always possible to separate if you are married and have a family, so consider talking to a counselor right away to have some professional advisement on how to proceed if you do feel the need to separate for a period of time.
Get an STD test right away--even if your cheating partner claimed that all outside sexual encounters were "safe." Condoms can be fragile, and STDs can be spread through other types of sexual contact that were not protected. STD testing is a vital precaution to keep you safe and healthy. If you have contracted an infection, proceed immediately with proscribed treatment.
Though you may want to lean on friends and family members and disclose your partner's infidelity, I advise against doing this extensively. I say this because if you ultimately remain in the relationship, friends and family member's opinion of your partner may be poisoned forever. Even if you forgive, they may not. They could end up seeing your spouse as a "cheating scumbag" now and forever.
Instead, I again suggest speaking to a third-party therapist. You may want to seek both individual and couples counseling so that you can vent and sort through all of your unhappy feelings.
If your relationship does, indeed, come to an end, then it is only natural to go through a grieving process. While the end of any relationship provides an opportunity to examine oneself and make positive changes, you need not blame yourself. This is one of the most difficult revelations to endure, but you're stronger than you know.
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