You and your spouse made the challenging decision to be abstinent until after your marriage was solemnized--good for you! Not many Americans follow through on such a commitment in our modern times. Unfortunately, however, sexual prowess doesn't come as naturally as we initially hope it will, and when the act doesn't manifest as much pleasure (especially for women) as the media has so long been telling us, we can develop some doubts.
Going through this doesn't make you naive or incompetent. For couples that have been abstinent, this is actually quite normal. But how can you get sexually on track? Listen to the advice that helped my spouse and me do precisely that.
You probably heard often enough before your nuptials just how vital open communication is to make your relationship work. This tidbit also applies to bedroom happenings. Many people, regardless of how long they have been sexually active, feel shy about asking for what they want, but suffering in silence is not the key to having a great intimate exchange with your beloved.
And if you don't know what you want? Then devote some time to finding out. Allot some time for extra-long foreplay to explore the possibilities.
It is crucial to be open, but many abstinent couples are also religiously devoted ones, which has its share of baggage. Many of us have mistakenly believed that certain sex acts are dirty and/or off-limits, but if you are open to rearranging those boundaries together, then you are likely to find bedroom interactions that vary up your routine and bring both of you plenty of enjoyment.
On the other hand, it's okay to take it slow. Never pressure your spouse into anything nor allow yourself to be pressured into something you'd prefer not to do. That only leads to resentment.
A major obstacle for both men and women--but especially women--is stress. Women typically need to feel emotionally engaged in sex in order to feel physical sensation, so try exchanging back massages before proceeding to other types of foreplay. I have found this to be tremendously useful for me, heightening my ability to connect with my spouse on all levels.
It's okay to look for outside helps. Lingerie, toys, and varying lubricants bring in a spirit of experimentation and fun. Stimulating gels and other female sexual enhancement can also give you the boost you need to get a more satisfying physical response.
No one becomes an expert lover right away. It takes patience and practice (which is part of the fun, of course). But research is on your side: studies show that people that have had only one partner cheat much less than the general population, and that monogamous, married women report the most satisfaction in their sex lives. So it's worth it!
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